Saturday, 28 July 2012

Nature Spirit Magick

Each plant, animal, rock, and other entity has a spirit (consciousness resonance matrix). These spirits can join together, in a hive-mind, as a spirit of an area. Nature spirits include real biological intelligences, are psychically powerful, and are much less abstract and controllable than the Elementals that many magical people who perform all of their rituals indoors are familiar with. They can be extremely powerful allies. It is possible to sense nature spirits, to determine if they are receptive to a ritual planned, and to have them actively participate in magical workings if they are.

Some Effects Of Working With Nature Spirits

Spectacular physical manifestations can happen when working with nature spirits in the wild. I have personally seen actual foxfire mark the boundaries of a magic circle at a location that was identified as a receptive power spot and attuned to a planned ritual the day before. I have seen more than one site attuned for ritual be dry and comfortable, with a round hole in the clouds overhead, on days that were cold and rainy at other nearby locations. Birds have joined in rituals, flying around the circle when energy was being raised; and insects, birds and animals have joined in chants. In addition, the wind often responds to invocations. Generally, these spectacular manifestations happen unexpectedly.

With or without such manifestations, nature spirits often will channel tremendous amounts of power into the magic being performed. It is suggested that you do not consciously try for specific manifestations. Let Nature channel her power into the magic in her own way. If approached with respect, nature may give you many pleasant surprises.

Spectacular physical manifestations are not a necessary sign of success. If you need a spectacular manifestation and nature spirits know this, you will get it. The best success in magic is on the inner planes and more subtle than such manifestations. This success involves beneficial changes in consciousness that last and helpful chains of synchronicity. In addition, working with Nature Spirits can also bring a deep sense of partnership with Nature, and bring new levels of attunement.

To get the best results, perform nature spirit attunement several hours to several days before the main ritual. The purposes of such attunement are to find suitable power spots and to get the help of friendly nature spirits. This timing gives Nature time to gather her children and to prepare to actively participate in the main ritual.

What To Not Do

If nature spirits are approached with disrespect by attempting to command them rather than listening to them and inviting them to work with you, nature spirits may flee, rebel, or attack. I once attended a ritual by some pseudo-Crowleyites who attempted to perform the "Ritual of the Barbarous Names" at a power spot in a forest and then to extend the circle several hundred yards in all directions.

While the forest in general had loud insect and frog noises, the area at which the ritual took place got quiet immediately when the main ritualist declared that all spirits were subject unto him. The vibes from nature could best be characterized as "Oh yea, Mother!" One participant was quickly possessed by an angry spirit and kept repeating "You killed my children, your children will never live in peace." When the priestess stepped out of the boundaries of the original circle, she was attacked by bees; and bees covered the Book of the Law. Magicians should know better than to attempt to command spirits whose true names they do not know!

Calling Nature Spirits

To make the most out of working magical ritual in the wild, one should find power spots where nature spirits are receptive to the ritual planned and approach the spirits with respect, as equals. In my experience, the most effective power spots for working with the living intelligences of nature are located in wild areas with diverse, active ecologies.

When entering a wild area to find a site for a ritual, find a place that feels good. Then do the following, either individually or, if in a group, as a guided meditation:

1. Relax, while standing upright, and focus on your breathing. Breathe deep breaths from the diaphragm. Breathe together if in a group.

2. Feel the wind, and let it relax you and awaken your spirit within, as your deep breathing takes you into non-ordinary reality.

3. Picture, in your mind's eye, a light inside you. As you breathe, feel the light expand, purify and energize you - as it expands to fill your aura.

4. Feel yourself glowing, balanced, purified, and full of power.

5. Connect with your inner self (your higher self), and feel your intuitive self operating.

Feel yourself as:

1. The wind, full of life and intelligence, communicating with all round.

2. The Sunlight, warm, alive, channeling the power to communicate with nature and energizing all around.

3. Water, emotional, intuitive, refreshing, and connected with nature.

4. The Earth, and note how your physical body is able to wander while remaining part of Mother Earth.

5. Focus on your spiritual self, and:

6. Note the light within and feel it as love,

7. Expand the light and love beyond the immediate aura of your body to the surrounding area - where you will go to find a power spot and contact nature spirits.

8. Telepathically (by thinking while channeling the love and light energy) send out signals to nature spirits to emerge and be aware of your presence.

9. Say why you have come, and invite them to join in sharing, mutual celebration, and the work you intend.

10. Visualize the light and love energy you are channeling extending out and merging with the light from distant places.

11. Feel the power of the Earth flowing up through your body and feet.

12. Feel the power from the sky, and channel this power also to further energize the carrier signal of light and love for communicating with nature.

13. Visualize the light expanding and merging.

14. Continue to send out telepathic signals.

Now go deeper:

1. Close your eyes, sit on the Earth, and feel your connection while you channel more light and love.

2. Continue modulating the light and love with your thoughts - inviting receptive spirits to join with you and to make themselves known.

3. If in a group, someone should start playing a drum at a rate of about one beat per second; and you should listen to the drum and let the drum take you deeper.

4. Affirm that you are a nature magician, a medicine person, who knows and communicates with nature. Let this part of yourself emerge to full consciousness. Let the drum and the connection to your inner self awaken that part of yourself that naturally communicates with other life forms. Let it awaken your telepathic senses.

5. Continue sending telepathic signals to nature.

6. When you feel ready and an inner urge to begin, open your eyes a crack and look around, while continuing to channel love and light and telepathically calling for a response.

7. You may see light coming from certain areas that are receptive. You may get other signals, such as a feeling of power or love returning in a certain direction. Perhaps the type of response to this work will be unexpected; follow your intuition in interpreting it.

8. You may test your connection by communicating (mentally) instructions for signals for yes/no responses (such as light getting brighter for less and darker for no) and then mentally ask questions and observe the responses.

6. When you have found an areas that seems to be responsive and receptive, begin walking to the area, while beaming love energy. Extend your aura to the area and sense the energy.

Entering A Power Spot

1. Before entering a power spot, ask permission to enter. If the response is good, enter; if not, locate another more receptive area.

2. When entering the power spot, look around. Perhaps the responsive energy will be concentrated around some singularity (a bush, a tree, a specific branch, a moss covered rock, or other entity that stands out). Perhaps the energy will be more general. Use your intuition and feedback from the spirits to guide your actions.

3 If it feels right, send out a signal that you would like to touch the singularity (or the ground) for better communication. If the response is good, approach beaming love energy, and then touch or hug the singularity (or the ground).

4 Treat the spirits as you would other Pagans you meet for the first time - be sensitive, open, and listen.

Deepening Communication With Nature Spirits

 Now that you have made contact with spirits that seem receptive, deepen the communication:

1 Breathe deep breaths from the diaphragm, and with each breath, feel more refreshed.

2 Now imagine that your spine is the trunk of a tree; and, from its base, roots extend deep into the Earth. Deep into the rich moist Earth.

3. With every breath, feel the roots extending deeper,

4. Feel the energy deep within the Earth and within the waters of the Earth. Feel your roots absorbing nourishment from the Earth and from its waters.

5. Feel the moist, warm energy rising.

6. Feel it bursting up from the Earth and rising up your spine, like sap rises in a tree.

7. Feel the energy rise to your crown chakra (at the top of your head).

8. Now imagine that you have branches, branches that sweep up and then bend down towards the Earth, like the limbs of a willow.

9. Feel the branches extending and interweaving with your surroundings.

10. Feel the warm, moist energy of the Earth flowing through your branches. As it flows, feel yourself being purified, centered, and connected to the Earth.

11. Feel the power from the Earth flowing through your branches and then down back to the Earth, like a fountain.

12. Note how your branches absorb energy from the air. Also, feel them receiving light (fire) from the sky.

13. Feel the energy from above penetrating deep through your body into the Earth.

14. Feel the warmth of the Earth rising also.

15. Feel the energy circulating.

16. Notice how your branches intertwine with the branches of energy surrounding you.

17. Feel the energy dancing among your branches and the branches around you.

18. Notice how your roots also intertwine with underground energy channels.

19. Feel the energy dancing between your roots and the surrounding energy patterns.

Notice how you and the life around you are rooted in the same Earth, breathing the same air, receiving the same fire, drinking the same water, sharing the same underlying essence. You are one with the magical grove.

Telepathically mention the time in the past when nature spirits and people communicated regularly and the need to establish such communication now.

Test your connection by asking questions and observing the responses.

Working With Nature Spirits

1. Explain to the spirits the purpose of your coming to them and the nature of the ritual you plan.

2. If the spirits you contacted are receptive:

3. Explain to them the details of the ritual and invite them to provide ideas.

4. Listen, you may receive suggestions on how to improve the ritual. Such suggestions may come in the form of hunches, visions, answers to yes/no questions using pre-arranged signals, or in other ways.

5. Explain what type of space is needed and ask what the best place to perform the ritual is.

You may see light or get other psychic signals leading you to other sites, or you may be at one of them.

You may also ask what the best places for other aspects of the planned work are (picnicking, individual vision quests, etc.).

If preparation of the site is needed (removing briars, preparing a fire circle, etc.) ask permission of the spirits before proceeding with such action.

Before you leave the power spot, tell the spirits you have contacted when you plan to return to do the ritual (visualizing the associated lunar and solar aspects can help with this communication).

Invite them to join in the ritual when you return and to bring their friends.

Ask if it would be best to return silently, with drums, with chanting, or with some other form of approach.

You can also ask the spirits to provide guidance for working in balance and to provide a teacher to provide further guidance.

Proceed to other sites that were indicated by the spirits, doing similar meditations at each site.

If you need something, like a staff, a Maypole, or a wand, you can also ask where you can find it and follow the guidance you receive (not slavishly, but as you would guidance from another Pagan).

Before leaving the general area in which you found power spots and contacted nature spirits:

1. Channel love energy towards the receptive sites you found,

2. Thank the spirits of the land,

3.  Pull back your "roots and branches," return any excess energy you feel into the Earth.

4. Ground any excess energy into the Earth (placing your hands on the Earth, breathe in any excess energy, and channel the energy down your arms, while visualizing and feeling the energy going into the Earth), and

5. Leave in peace and love.

Naturally, you should leave the area at least as clean, and preferably cleaner, than you found it.

If you work with techniques of Wicca or Ceremonial Magic, you may find that by casting a circle, calling the Elements, the Goddess, the Gods, and the local nature spirits while you are at receptive sites, you may be able to greatly increase communication.

Through the use of drums and other power raising techniques, it is even possible to energize receptive nature spirits. The results can be very interesting. If with a coven, such circles can be done as part of a group attunement to a power spot you have located.

If you do not get good feelings in response to your explanation of the ritual and are unable to come up with a ritual that gives good responses, do not try to force a good response. You would only be fooling yourself.

Ask them why they are not receptive (if it feels right and they are communicative).

If it is hard to find a site that is really receptive, you should:

Consider any impressions you got of why the nature spirits weren't receptive in the area you were in, and re-think your plans for a ritual, as necessary and appropriate.

It may also be appropriate to look for another general area in which to find a suitable power site that is receptive to the work planned.

What To Do When Returning

It can be very powerful to purify and center yourself and to attune to the spirits of the land using the techniques previously described for calling nature spirits immediately upon returning to the site.

Often, individuals may have found small specific power spots to which they have a special attunement, where the spirits are interested in participating; but where the site is too small, has too much vegetation, or is otherwise unsuitable for the main ritual. Individual attunement to the spirits in such areas and inviting them to participate in the main ritual can be worthwhile.

Then approach the main ritual site using the previously arranged technique. You should have the details worked out with the spirits of the land. An exceptionally powerful technique involves doing a procession through or past receptive power spots, inviting nature spirits to join as you pass each power spot, and then moving to the central power spot for the main ritual. If participants are at individual power spots, they can join the procession as it passes nearby.

When consecrating space in the wild, or casting a circle, do not set up the perimeter as a barrier to all outside forces; it should be a beacon to attract friendly nature spirits, a container for holding magical power, and a barrier to spirits who it isn't right to be with.

One thing that is fun and worthwhile in nature is to bring instruments, such as a rattle, a flute and/or a drum, to tune in to nature's sounds, and to make music in time to nature's sounds. You may be able to get some very interesting back and forth exchanges of music going with selected creatures of the wild, and get into an amazing jam session.

After the work is complete, be sure to thank the spirits for their participation. Libations and other offerings may also be left for the spirits during and/or after the ritual.


There are other ways of working with nature spirits. This is one approach. The author thanks Selena Fox for teaching the basic guided meditation technique for locating and contacting nature spirits at a tranceworking session sponsored by the Chameleon Club (part of the Association for Consciousness Exploration) in 1981, Vicky Smith for editorial review of this article, Isaac Bonewitz for the outline of the expanded tree meditation, and Carlos Castenada, Black Eagle, Pasha, the Goddess, the Gods, and various nature spirits for teaching the rest of the good methods.

Most of this article is an expansion of an article by the author titled "Finding a Sacred Grove for Druid Initiation" ~by Larry Cornett, published in The Druid's Progress and in Amaranth Anthology. 

& by Arthur Crow © 2012

The Ancient Practice of Sun Gazing

The Ancient Practice of Sun Gazing: Modern Revision of An Ancient South East Asian Practice

Sun Gazing is an ancient method of healing that originated in India about 2600 years ago with the teaching of Lord Mahavir of Jain.

Most people who do sun gazing have gone to extremes such as gazing like 10 minutes or 30 minutes. What it does, basically, is that it activates the pineal gland, the glands responsible for the body's circadian rhythm.

How it works I do not know, but for some reason at certain times, the eyes needs lights necessary to re synchronize with the body systems.

What I do know is the pituitary was once considered a "master gland" until they later found out that it was actually controlled by the pineal gland.

The pineal gland secretes melatonin, which is a powerful antioxidant, controls blood sugar, sleeping, controls pituitary gland for example.

Seasonal Affective Disorders can be normalized by staring into a tungsten light bulb (good low wattage ones like 5 watts or 10 watts) for a couple of minutes to cure depression, etc, especially in countries where there is a light deficiency.

In fact, whenever you expose this light during the morning or make sure your bedroom lights are full spectrum, it will give you more energy for the entire day. That means the body functions better and the pineal gland can integrate various functions of the body to work in harmony with other glands as a result of greater activation by the lights. This is why the body gives you more energy.

Whenever you are exposed to light, the body needs to reset its timing mechanism everyday, and at least for me the best times to set the the biological clock so that you will be at least energized throughout the day is to at least get the sunlight into the bedroom in early morning hours.

It is necessary even if the room does not have access to bright lights to at least install a good bright tungsten light bulb or at least buy several light fluorescent from a local aquarium shops to have full spectrum lights turned on especially during the morning hours before going to work.

The practice of holistic medicine is to recognize that light, sound, energy, vibration are all related mathematically and this can be use to treat a wide variety of conditions.

Without going through too much math, it was Dr. Alfred Partheil that first recognized the relationship between lights and sound. He noted that the molecular weights of different elements of periodic tables at least from spectrum analysis were related to sound, by octaves. This concept can be further extended using the principle of octaves to sound, light, vibration and electromagnetic frequencies.

Assuming that I recorded your voice and break down the frequencies of your voice, the peak will show excess, the lack of it will show deficiencies. Therefore, these frequencies whether they be light, sound, or electromagnetic frequencies are related and allow the body to be complete.

Therefore, complete light spectrum frequencies, such as sunlight are best, but not necessarily does it have to be the sun. Most outside light, coming from the reflected clouds usually will have complete spectrum of frequencies. If you can program a sound generator sweeps from 0 Hz to 5000 Hz, the body can also be able to absorbed full spectrum of sound too, allowing equilibrium.

Basically the practice of sun gazing involves standing barefoot and looking indirectly into the sun for several minutes. However, I have modified the practice so that I will get the least problems (and complaints) with people who do it. Whenever people overdo something and encounter problems, they will generally quit doing everything altogether.
This is hardly the solution. The solution lies by starting something quite simply without resorting to extremes. For one thing, I have some correspondence with one person who uses sun gazing, but I prefer to call it light gazing, so people won't have to stare at the sun, which is generally not safe anyway.

The best way to start is to use more lights or make the room much brighter than usual especially during morning hours so that the body can reset its biological clocks. Just notice how less depressed you are and how much more energy you have for the rest of the day.

Another point that you can try later is to expose yourself to more lights than usual during the times in late afternoon where you are most depressed. Depending on where you live, that will be very different times, but if I lived in Chicago during the winter seasons, I would definitely need a very powerful lights full spectrum around between 3.00 p.m. - 4.00 p.m. In warmer climates such as Houston, the ideal time at least for me when I feel most depressed is between 6.00 - 7.00 p.m. is the time I need the lights. Winter hours, I may need more sun gazing or light gazing where two times are preferable such as the morning and the late afternoon before the sun sets. These two times will uplift the body.

There is also a strange observation, that if I don't do this, and stayed in the house all day, I might have trouble sleeping. And it is strange that I sometimes have to sleep with the lights open if the turning off the lights is not working. This means that the body needs certain lights to reset its clock. If you won't do it during the day, then I guess it has to be done while you sleep! If you are aware that the lights involve the resetting of the body's clock necessary for normal function, you can use this to the best advantage for you.

While it is claimed that you can go without food, (but not water) for more than a year using sun gazing, it is best done under medical supervision.

The best ways to do it is not to go on hunger strike. A more moderate means, by observing whether you eat less or whether your weight has declined to normal levels. These don't need any effort and it happens automatically.
So that is the moderate way we can do it. The key to sun gazing effectively is basically keep it simple and stupid, or do the obvious with plenty of moderation making sure you don't make mistakes. If you master the basics and everything is on your side, further developing this techniques is quite simple. The key is to stick to the fundamentals first and master that and make sure your health is improving, this I would call success.


The time you do sun gazing is to look into white clouds and you need not look at the sun. The idea is for your eyes to receive full light spectrum, for a couple of minutes, such as 1-2 minutes. You need not stare too long, but you can do enough that you feel well enough then stop. Then if you feel you need some more exposure due to depression, tiredness, or burnout, look at it again. The key is not to strain but to relax. If you feel a strain in looking into the white light such as the sky or clouds, then you should really stop. Once the body is removed of its strain and the feeling that your body is being filled up with energy then that is the key to successful sun gazing. The idea is to do it at different times of the day, especially in morning and late afternoon. What exact times really depends on how much sun you are getting at each particular time.

For example, winter in Chicago and sun is lacking you may need a full spectrum light bulb or full spectrum lights that you might get from a aquarium shops. It must be noted that when you are exposed to this relatively brief period that you are not strained and you feel you need it. If natural sunlight is not possible than staring at a rather weak tungsten light bulb will also help as it has a rather continuous light spectrum compared to neon lights.

Sometimes when the body lack or deficient in lights, I have noticed that I cannot sleep without lights. I had to leave the lights on to sleep! In other words, after working in a home for days, the body just needs it. The body sometimes need to sleep with full lights, and in some instances it must sleep in total darkness. The key is the body must be relaxed, not strained. If it is strained from night lights, or if it is strained from lack of lights, you need to be aware of this fact without forcing yourself in such a situation. The brain needs lights to reset itself or to integrate various hormones by energizing the pineal gland where the eyes act as receptors. Without lights or lack of lights or body by instinct tend to signal your body into hibernation, so getting sleepy working in an office with lack of lights is hardly conducive to health since the issue of strain is there. Whenever constant source of strain exists, the body goes into adrenal exhaustion or accumulates way too much stress to cause the body into a breakdown condition, which means of course, sickness.

The Raven, Magick and Witches

Raven Totem Animal

Shamanism and Native American spirituality speak of animal totems. These are important nature symbols used by people to get in touch with specific required qualities found within an animal. A person's totem animal will have qualities they need, that they connect with, or feel a deep affinity toward. You can work with more than one totem animal, although many people tend to have a main totem that they work with all their life.

Raven is known as the "keeper of secrets" in numerous native tribes.

As a totem, Raven is the teacher of mysticism. Having such a wealth of myth and lore surrounding him throughout many cultures and ages, Raven is the ideal teacher of this subject.

The black color of ravens and their carrion diet associates them with darkness. This dark void represents the the unconscious.

Raven brings heightened awareness and a deeper understanding of our consciousness. Raven allows us to see into the hearts of others using our newly found perception, helping us to empathise with their feelings.

Raven encourages us to experience transformation, so that we can be reunited with the mysteries of the universe, and rid ourselves of our inner demons.

The Raven, Magick and Witches 

Associated Elements:
Air and Water

Associated Festivals:
Samhain and Imbolc

Station on the Wheel of the Year:
Northwest and Northeast

Raven is said to be the protector and teacher of seers and clairvoyants. In the past, witches were thought to turn themselves into ravens to escape pursuit.

The Raven as a Familiar

A familiar is a spiritual animal power or supernatural spirit, representing a species as a whole (i.e. Raven, not a raven) in a similar way to a Totem Animal.

A witch works with a familiar by drawing on a particular species for their strength and abilities. A familiar may also act as a guide to the Otherworld, and act as helpers in healing or magic.

The term familiar is also sometimes applied to a witch's companion animal, such as a black cat.

The Raven is a teacher, particularly of magical systems. If you find that one is attracted to you, it means you have the potential to be a great worker of magic. Raven does not care if this is for good or bad.

Raven familiars are not for the newly initiated - Raven only appears as a familiar to those who have progressed significantly down the path. Your consciousness must be at a certain level to understand the teachings Raven brings.

Raven brings the secrets from the underworld, particularly bringing the secret of transformation from the underworld to the world of magic.

Raven appearing physically out of the blue, or in a vision, is an important omen.

The Raven appearing in a vision can signify a warning, telling you to take heed as you may be in dangerous territory or are attracting negativity to yourself through magic or other workings.

Alternatively it can mean that the higher powers have acknowledged your progress in your magical workings and have sent Raven to instruct you further in the magical arts.

Saturday, 9 June 2012

The Drama of Relationships, Emotional Parasites, and the Cyanide Psyche

Many of my readers have asked I submit more material and commentary regarding various personality disorders, character flaws, and general psychos. You got it!

Manipulators, Control Freaks, Psychopaths, Female Sociopaths, Paranoia PPD, Male Jealously, Flirting, Love & Lust

— All which will be covered in this post.

I have observed over the years when it comes to deciphering the hidden and true emotional fabric of those around us; especially those we are in close relations with, many are blind and fail to recognize they are been duped. And that beckoning awareness is greatly hindered by the fact that those who are perpetrators of emotional abuse and control, embellish themselves so deeply in their own mental puke, they have convinced themselves they are right, which just accentuates the problem.


Keeping good health and course in relationships is a daunting road to navigate... equally, the architecture of our own minds and consciousness is just as challenging in all the imbuing emotional landscapes... One of the most challenging and ugliest is dealing with rage and domestic violence. Both overt and covert. And whether it's online or offline... dealing with chaos and highly negative emotions and reactions is a real experience for many.

Negative agendas can be out in the open, or they can hide behind a foray or deceptions. Anger, resentment and jealousy are often camouflaged by a grossly self righteous demeanor and pompous exterior... It's important to distinguish between those on the path of peace, and those on the path of war. Well versed practitioners of manipulation and emotional blackmail will place themselves on a saint-like pedestal in an attempt to justify their obscene behavior; however such a status can not be maintained, thus the facade of truth and justice begins to peal, and the true layers begin to reveal a highly negative agenda and motivation.

The self appointed guru with the 'holier than thou' attitude, will publicly anoint themselves in a glossy stream of high spiritual preachings and glitter, yet in reality they swim in the muck of their own foul delusion.

It's very easy for one to say they are a champion of love, truth and honor.... preach the gospel of integrity etc. However, words and fancy displays can account for naught if their 'real' behavior and 'face', speaks something vastly different pertaining to a hate-constructed football field. For example, and mostly critically — one who is a legitimate beacon of love and truth, will be armed with depthless humility and compassion, they will adopt a kind, sensible, understanding and noble approach to all tasks in every step they take.. and if they make a wrong step, they will go back, and move forward again only when their bearing is just. REAL LOVE AND TRUTH MAKES NO ROOM OR BARGAIN UPON ANYTHING LESS THAN THOSE ATTRIBUTES.

People who have over inflated egos will harness and engage distorted logic/reasoning, further amalgamated with a temperament that will twist everything another might say in order to satisfy their own failures and insecurities so they can be right and feel justified in their actions. Ego maniacs love to perform and will shine their brightest phony light for their friends and seek audience. They will go to any lengths to see their bullshit solidified, such as playing the victim role or invalidating others, being cruel and callas, entice dissent, whilst propping themselves up further in their own immortal shrine. Much of their baloney will occur under the pretense of love and justice or truth... But such behavioral patterns and traits have nothing remotely whatsoever to do with love. Love does not look like that! Neither to the blind nor the dumb! It only looks like that in the cold eyes of spite, corruption, deception and hatred.
Failure to reason and move forward with unwavering sincerity and warmth, real wish to initiate, see peace realized within themselves and upon others... will leave the person suspended in self created misery and hurt... for a very very long time!

There has to be maturity and wisdom working in tandem for real progress towards peace in order for it to be realized. Within the emotional conundrum, rational discernment, kindness and sincerity is a choice...We all know who we are if we look deep enough... we all have the ability to make choices based on objectives and desires that are kind and authentic, or stained with negative intent.

Let's turn on the electron mindoscope and look closer at psychopaths, abusive controllers, emotional trolls and fruit cakes:

Psychopaths cannot be understood in terms of antisocial rearing or development. They are simply morally depraved individuals who represent the "monsters" in our society. They are unstoppable and untreatable predators whose violence is planned, purposeful and emotionless. Their emotionlessness reflects a detached, fearless, and possibly dissociated state, revealing a low-state autonomic nervous system and lack of anxiety. It's difficult to say what motivates them - control and dominance possibly - since their life history will usually show no long-standing bonds with others nor much rhyme to their reason. They tend to operate with a grandiose demeanor, an attitude of entitlement, an insatiable appetite, and a tendency toward sadism in worst cases. Fearlessness is probably the prototypical (core) characteristic (the low-fear hypothesis). It's helpful to think of them as high-speed vehicles with ineffective brakes.

Psychopaths suffer from major emotional deficits and do not experience real love or empathy, typically profoundly selfish and lack emotion. Many psychopaths have wonderful charming personalities, though all lack in character. This is not immediately obvious. *For example, crime writer Ann Rule was close friend of serial killer, Ted Bundy, for years before she could bring herself to admit he was guilty of horrendous atrocities. She described him as one of the nicest men she knew. Not all pschopaths are killers... some are just as insidious with hobbies of emotional terrorism and relationship games. Don't be fooled by smooth appearances or a sweet tongue. The nicest rosy-cheeked girl in your neighborhood can be an insane asshole and the last person you'd want to get entangled with. The guy that mows your lawns may appear to be the most wonderful caring man you'd trust with your life, but he may very well go home and shoot his pets when they get sick because he doesn't want to take them to the vet or care for them. This personality will assault or kill, and less than 10mins later, you'll find him or her feet up in the lounge with a cup of chamomile tea watching Mary Poppins.

Psychopaths are cunning, heartless and manipulative, and they make for perilous interview subjects, *according to Michael Woodworth, one of the authors and a psychologist who studies psychopathy at the University of British Columbia.
"It is unbelievable," Woodworth said. "You can spend two or three hours and come out feeling like you are hypnotized."

There are reasons and evidence to support that psychopaths' speech patterns can show distinctive characteristics.. Careful observation and analysis can give them away, they unconsciously betray themselves. They are clever, but not as clever as they think.

The Manipulating Maniac

I can recognize a manipulator at 50 feet, a skill I am grateful for. I urge you to take the time and read my previous two posts on human behavior to tune up your discernment hardware and be able to identify their modus operandi, and respond accordingly.

If there’s one human personality defect where the subject will never admit or consider ownership of — it’s the marauding manipulator. Holly fuck, these twits think they can sell ice to Eskimos and convince the Moon it’s really Jupiter with an identity crisis.

Manipulative people are typically very charming and extroverted, their very energy draw's you in at first and you love to be in their presence.  But manipulation is a growing tide of pestilence and you will soon grow weary of it. And that experience can be avoided if you wise up to their true nature.

Cracks in the veneer

The first time you disagree with a manipulator, (no matter how good they are) will show you a crack in their veneer. Manipulative people have to have an audience or a posse, and dissenters are seen as a threat to their identity. The first time you disagree, even on some minor personal or professional point, any class A manipulator gets thrown into a tailspin. And it's quite amusing to watch them getting all flustered and desperate trying to regain stranglehold or position.

When you begin to verbally disagree, point out inconsistencies in a manipulator's behavior, they typically do one of three things; attack, back off if they see you as too much of a challenge, or try harder to manipulate you. No matter how bad their behavior gets, they rarely apologize. Any of these actions from a manipulator is meant to accomplish only one thing; make you come running to do their bidding while your own self esteem is broken down and dismantled.

Basic Remedy:
Recognize that manipulators are weak.

Manipulators will absolutely run the other way when they realize they are unable to manipulate you.

— Good! That’s what you want in case you have not already realized it; hence they will go and manipulate someone else. Promote that to occur if you are entangled with one — by standing your ground and holding them on point — refer to my recent blog post:

>Whilst personality & emotional disorders qualify equally unto both sexes. This next illustration is for the guys... time to wake up and clue in to who you are dealing with:

Emotional abuse and manipulation/Female Sociopaths

Manipulation and Control Tactics:
These tactics are used to change the balance of power in the relationship. This begins in subtle ways early in the relationship with hidden invasions of privacy, jealousy and possessiveness disguised as passion, increasing demands for your time and attention, and extreme behavior.

The Abusive Consumer will use these methods to begin the process of getting what she wants from you.

The Abusive Controller will use these methods to begin taking control of your life away from you.

Emotional Abuse:  
A pattern of mental attack, causing a sense of impending threat in the relationship.  Everything good between you dangles on the edge of abuse, depending solely on whether or not you remain in her good graces. These attacks involve demeaning verbal attacks on a persons identity, invalidation and the destruction of positive self-worth. This is used both as a punishment for failing to meet rigid, unhealthy expectations and as a means to manipulate the victim into falling back into line.

Female Abusers often fall into two categories:

1. Abusive Controllers:
Women who want to control you so they can own you mind, body and soul. You are an extension of herself, to be arranged and managed. She is not really interested in who you are, but more in whom she requires you to be. To her, compliance is love. Meeting her rigid expectations and giving her complete access to you 24/7, is what she wants from you.

2. Abusive Consumers:  
Women who want to control you so they can have access to everything you've got. You are a tool she uses to elevate her own life. She is more interested in the lifestyle you can provide for her than the relationship she has with you. To her, giving her things is love. She may resist too much closeness, because closeness is really more of a means to an end; beyond that, it's is problem for her.
**Important to Note: Some women take on aspects of both these postures, so watch and listen carefully. One thing is certain: whether she is a Controller, a Consumer or both, it's all about her, all the time. Your role is limited to what you’re doing for her, or failing to do for her!

From the book ‘Venus: The Dark Side--Female Sociopaths’.
There are male sociopaths and there are female sociopaths, but female sociopaths are rarely discussed. In Venus: The Dark Side, authors Roy Sheppard and Mary T Cleary offer great insights.

*As contributed:

“The consequences of her behavior are always somebody else’s problem, not hers. She is never to blame for anything...Because she’s out to control, she manipulates and punishes at will. She is the witness, the judge, the lawyer, the jury, the executioner - but never the accused... She will break the rules without a second thought, if the end justifies the means.”

Guys, I have mentioned before... someone who has consistently demonstrated immunity to accountability should set off a sea of red flags!

Remember, the prominence of her demeanor is: You are dealing with Gandhi's long lost fucking love child. Nothing to own in her mind. In fact, every time she fucks up, it will be your fault! You made her do it LOL.

“Sociopaths are notoriously difficult to spot because most of them are incredibly adept at hiding their true self and their motives. Since childhood the female sociopath may have developed complex and often subconscious methods to deceive her targets. On the surface she appears excessively friendly and charming. In fact, an early warning sign is that you suspect she is too good to be true. She probably is.”

“She believes she is entitled to everything she desires. With an overdeveloped sense of self, working for what she wants is an inconvenience. Hard work is for everybody else. She wants the fast buck and the short-cut to success. Becoming a social parasite is quicker than toiling for anything. And when she pulls it off, she can then congratulate herself on cheating, conning or defrauding others who may be more intelligent or successful than she is.”

Her every whim must be accommodated. Humility is alien to her. She is self-centered, lacks compassion and acts more like a cold breeze in a Plutonian wind storm.

Creating self-doubt in her victims’ minds is an integral part of her approach. Beware this technique – this is their greatest tool of trade.

The Twisted Psycholox Parasite

This one is just too easy to cover. But let me spell it out to you:

When absolutely everything you communicate, every spoken/written attempt at reason and civil conduct, is spat on, twisted and twisted again, to such a degree it becomes something completely untrue and unrecognizable to what you expressed or shared initially. This is a defense mechanism, and it’s also the behavior tactic of pathetic low life slime pushers. Little commentary or explanation is required here, suffice to say, the reason for it is simply they have been caught out and their fallacy exposed. They know they have not basis, or a leg to stand on, they feel backed into a corner and resort to childish antics.

Paranoid personality disorder (PPD)
(Applies to all)
  • Doubt the commitment, loyalty, or trustworthiness of others, believing others are using or deceiving them
  • Are reluctant to confide in others or reveal personal information due to a fear that the information will be used against them
  • Are unforgiving and hold grudges
  • Are hypersensitive and take criticism poorly
  • Read hidden meanings in the innocent remarks or casual looks of others
  • Perceive attacks on their character that are not apparent to others; they generally react with anger and are quick to retaliate
  • Have recurrent suspicions, without reason, that their spouses or lovers are being unfaithful
  • Are generally cold and distant in their relationships with others, and might become controlling and jealous
  • Cannot see their role in problems or conflicts, believing they are always right
  • Have difficulty relaxing
  • Are hostile, stubborn, and argumentative

Paranoia is a major issue. Some people are infinite SLAVES TO PARANOIA. So much so they self sabotage all initial good intentions and sensible reasoning mechanisms. And extreme cases will utterly destroy all that is healthy for them and around them. The acute paranoid mind has been re-wired into a working factory of disaster, every conceivable notion of good and innocence is obliterated and transformed into doom. Professional help is critical. But most of all, the person in question must 'want' to change... must be brutally hungry to get better, snap out of the haze, and mentally-tattoo themselves with healthy thought patterns and accommodate them every day with positive reinforcement exercises.

Having said that, and this is where things get tricky – when the paranoid personality disorder is integrated to complement the toxic emotional structures/agendas of a psychopath.. (it’s common to find these strange tandem psychological conditions in joint progress). It becomes dangerous. And one has to question the validity and worth of any efforts undertaken to promote change, willingly or otherwise. Simply put – the clinical psychopath will not care, not today.. not tomorrow… and unlikely any time in the future.

Further examples of Paranoia Personality Disorder:

Your girl friend finds a romantic image on the net which was not directed at anyone, but you simply like, yet she claims you are having feelings for someone else or betrayal.

She finds a conversation shared between you and a former girl friend, that’s years before you even met your current love interest, and she claims you are still seeing the other girl or wanting to.

You have a busy day at work and don’t respond to an email until the next morning; she states you have lost interest in her and you better pay attention quick if you care about the relationship.

You give a compliment on someone’s photo on Facebook, and she screams betrayal and calls you a womanizer.

Getting the picture yet?

And I could illustrate literally hundreds of examples… why? Because the paranoid personality disorder always comes up with hundreds of reasons and claims funded by their paranoia!

Key: Don’t let anyone railroad you into feeling guilty, or accommodating a blame game, for something erroneous. Your girl friend does not have the right to pull into question, chapters and events you shared with a previous love interest years ago, or prior, and use it as a tool to manipulate you or invalidate your character. It’s none of her business; no matter what angle she tries to put on it, it will never be her business. It’s only your business!

Realty: She attempts to make it her business purely out of emotional insecurity and to facilitate control.

Don’t fall for that shit.. kick it back under the bridge and move on.


This is sometimes a controversial subject. Flirting usually connotes fun, playful behavior towards another person, usually when some attraction is involved. Encarta defines it as behaving "in a playfully alluring way."

Playfully alluring behavior can be seen as an instance of breaking established rules in the relationship – unwritten or implied rules that govern how partners behave once they enter into that relationship.

However, one cannot discount the popular view that flirting can just be harmless fun, without any intent to go further, which generally speaking, is all it is.
Do people in love, soul mates, flirt with others? Yes and no, some do and others not. The reality is neither is wrong.

What matters, is if you do flirt with someone — it does not lead to infidelity. Or you are not flirting/engaging with another in such a way where one or both parties are planning to go beyond a simple flirtatious exchange, into meeting up with each other and having a relationship or casual sex. There are boundaries when it comes to flirting, or any kind of interacting with others outside of your relationship. If you cross the line, then you got to own it.

It can get ridiculous though; there are those who believe that just fantasizing, or a fleeting thought, about another person constitutes cheating. If you are in a relationship, and are committed to that person, complimenting someone else on their appearance or attire, is not even remotely flirting or cheating. The odd flirtatious remark expressed; nor is that an act of betrayal. And it never will constitute betrayal regardless of protest to suggest otherwise. The holly inquisition will not come and take you away in shackles.

People’s ludicrous sense of entitlement will conveniently twist morals and rational into – ‘every gaze that is met upon another person’s form or photo’ — to you being an evil traitor. Wrong!

If someone attempts to demonize you for a harmless flirtatious act, first of all, remember the probable cause and origins (referring to all above). Stemming from insecurity and control — emotional terrorists and self righteous control freaks, love to mind fuck you in a courtyard of melodramatic anarchy.

But make no mistake gentleman. If your girlfriend comes home and finds you in bed screwing the neighbor, or finds two airline tickets to Paris hidden under the mattress, with your name and that of her best friend, well then you have earned the mark of  betrayal.

The Jealous Man

This one is specifically for the female audience.

Men hold fame for being very jealous in a variety of circumstances. And they; like females, can be extremely controlling. Unfortunately, sexual possessiveness and the resulting jealousy seem to be hardwired into the male psyche. Jealousy causes activity in the amygdala and hypothalamus. These parts of the brain can initiate violent aggression. Selfishness is linked to possessiveness. As a normal part of human development, children often do not want to share their belongings. Possessiveness can often lead to one child physically harming another for touching his things. If this behavioral problem is not fixed early, it can last into adulthood, affecting that person's relationships with other adults. Jealousy is linked directly to insecurity. If insecurity is not brought to the surface, it can fester inside of you.
In episodes of jealously, men are often more linear… they envision simple rules of ownership and entertain pure jealously to the point of out of control rage. They can’t seem to get past that cave-man syndrome, where the answer is to proverbially knock everything on the head instead of trying to understand the world around them, and more importantly, trying to understand themselves.

You know what a jealous controlling man is! It’s very simple, and you must ask yourself this: Do you ever feel uncomfortable in his presence, feel intimidated, or have concern for your safety? Are you ever hesitant to go out with friends and be your own person? Make your own decisions and choices?

For men who are insanely jealous, it is highly unlikely they will ever change. They were a jealous delinquent at 18, they are going to have the same issues when they are 58. Think I’m wrong? You better do your homework!

If your stress levels are off the charts and you feel helpless or hold little or no belief that things are going to change, then be the change! That is — get out, leave, go anywhere but near that man. Do not wait for him to convince you he’s no good by getting physically beaten up. You deserve a guy that will not act like crazed jealous retard. Jealously is not love. Control is not love.

Find a man who will commit to you, love and cherish you, but allow you to be free and independent, even when together. Such a man will encourage these things.. he will appreciate your wings and watch you fly. He will paint your beauty as you soar thru the clouds and frame it on the wall. In his presence you will feel comfortable and happy all the time. You will feel peace. That’s love!

True Love

Requires devotion through the highs and lows of partnership. A steadfast decision to commit yourself to another person and to work through conflicts instead of giving up based on arbitrary whims or disputes bearing no or sufficient scale. A willingness to communicate and negotiate upon appropriate and flexible expectations of each other ~ this requires a lot of selflessness and polite assertiveness. A deep bond forged in respect and admiration… unfolding in a collaboration of wisdom, maturity and passion. These basic ingredients make up the spiritual essence of love and cannot be wrought into other purpose. Sharing all facets of the journey, evolving together, is the way... and where the Sun shines brightest... Love’s horizon illuminates the most grand.
A solid partnership shaped in a formula of intensely shared genuine affection, growth, rational discernment, kindness and sincerity, confidence security, will provide the ideal atmosphere and peaceful stage for which true love can bloom freely and openly – anything less is not authentic or an attribute of love.  Anything less, is an injustice to real love. A blissful relationship can be celebrated & shared if the right seeds are sown and nurtured.


Is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning desire – a reckless commitment to satisfy one's all consuming lust and state of mind numbing euphoria. The emotional impulse of love untested by time or circumstance will not deliver satisfaction or authenticity in partnership no matter how much fairy dust one sprinkles upon it. An unhealthy infatuation often leads to reckless abandonment of what was once valued, and loss of ability to make rational evaluations of what is true, valuable and worthy of pursuit.
Remember - infatuation is a vaccine that immunizes you against seeing anything wrong with the other person. You tend put your beloved on a pedestal, a paragon of perfection. You live in a sort of Romantic Disneyland. Real love is not blind. Real love always does a reality check!

Real love must have ‘real’ gravity < Seriously, does that have to be a flashing neon sign micro-chipped in people's heads before they 'get it' ?

Regardless of who you are, your gender or challenges. Make time for some focused breathing, get in sync with the natural harmony around you, via your center of being… Anchor through coherent reasoning and sensibilities. Learn to nourish and embrace them for a healthier future and soul existence.


Love is patient and kind,
Love is not jealous, conceited, proud or boastful,
it is not arrogant, selfish, irritable or rude.
Love does not keep a record of wrongs.
Love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth,
Love never gives up, and its faith, hope and patience never fail.
Love is eternal.

~ 1-Corinthians 13:4 ~

In closing:

I say this all the time: The best defense against those who attempt to subjugate us into their mental fallacy, or nonsensical racketeering, is to stand firm and say NO. Be non participant to their stage antics.... move right away... walk away. Metaphorically, put them in a box and leave them in the middle of a field. By reacting, you give them what they want... Ignore and keep ignoring. Give your time and energy only to those who express back to you the same love and kindness you wish for yourself.

Arthur Crow © 2012